Compromise is a funny word. In some contexts it’s seen as a strength. Compromising with others to achieve a common goal, reach a higher cause, do more than you could ever do on your own. In other contexts, sexuality is one example, compromise sounds like a dirty word. It’s like settling or somehow not being true to yourself.

What compromise is at its root is something we need to do to be in the world with others. Without compromise fewer of us would survive, and we certainly wouldn’t get nearly as much accomplished. Why some compromises are seen as valuable, civilizing parts of life and others are seen as signs of weakness isn’t clear. For the most part though any sexual compromise, no matter how beneficial it may be, is considered iffy. But it’s worth asking yourself why this is, and what sorts of compromises you are willing to make in exchange for what kinds of sexual returns.

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